Your mom is telling you “do this”. Your cousin twice-removed is telling you “don’t do that”. A lot of wedding stationery rules have gone out the window, so we ask friends and family. This isn’t always the best idea. What is a great idea is to go with your gut. The wedding rules are truly YOURS. Because guess what? It’s YOUR wedding! Obviously, hiring a wedding stationery designer can alleviate the stress and guide you through the dos and don’ts. And since I am a custom wedding invitation designer in Denver, I’ve put together a list below specifically on the subject of invitation suites.
DO mail physical wedding invitations
DON'T create an e-vite
DO mail invitations 2-3 months out
DON'T mail invitations more than 4 months out (unless you are having a destination wedding and did not send out save the dates)
DO formally address your envelopes ("Mr and Mrs Smith") and mail them
DON'T hand-deliver wedding invitations with a name scribbled on the envelope
DO put the bride's name first
DON'T include too many family names (try to keep parent names on one line)
DO use bold and interesting fonts
DON'T use fonts that will make your invitation illegible
DO include a separate RSVP card with clear information for your guests
DON'T throw a wedding website at the bottom of your invitation card
DO have multiple friends and family proofread all cards in the wedding invitation suite
DON'T trust your invitation designer to catch everything
DO order at least 10 extra of everything
DON'T underestimate your guest list — last minute additions can pop-up
DO take an assembled invitation suite to the post office and weigh for postage cost
DON'T guess and apply postage to envelopes beforehand
Tip: If you have questions about wedding invitation etiquette contact a local stationery designer and ask! I know I am always available to help anyone out, client or no client.
For Do’s and Don’ts on Save the Dates, see my 2.27.19 blog.