Your mom is telling you “do this”. Your cousin twice-removed is telling you “don’t do that”. A lot of wedding stationery rules have gone out the window, so we ask friends and family. This isn’t always the best idea. What is a great idea? Go with your gut. The wedding rules are truly YOURS. Because guess what? It’s YOUR wedding! Obviously, hiring a wedding stationery designer can alleviate the stress and guide you through the etiquette. So since I am a custom wedding stationery designer in Denver, below I’ve put together a list of do's and don'ts specifically on save the dates to help you out.
Keep an eye out… I’ll have more do's and don’ts on other stationery subjects coming later.
DO mail save the dates 6-12 months out
DON'T mail save the dates more than one year out
DO include the month, day, and year
DON'T include a time or date range (if you are throwing more than one event)
DO include your names (with last names or without ~ whatever you prefer!)
DON'T put nicknames or your parents names
DO include city and state of wedding location
DON'T include specific addresses
DO include your wedding website
DON'T include registry information
DO put your PROFESSIONAL engagement pictures on your card
DON'T put a selfie on your card
DO create a design that speaks to your wedding theme or vision
DON'T create a design that your best friend likes because "it's pretty"
DO include your wedding colors
DON'T include colors that your mom likes because "they're pretty"
DO have fun designing your save the date and make it YOUR own
DON'T create a design because someone else told you to. tell them to
go get their own wedding to plan!
Tip: If you have questions about wedding stationery etiquette contact a small local business and ask! I know I am always available to help anyone out, client or no client.