Your mom is telling you “do this”. Your cousin twice-removed is telling you “don’t do that”. A lot of wedding stationery rules have gone out the window, so we ask friends and family. This isn’t always the best idea. What is a great idea? Go with your gut. The wedding rules are truly YOURS. Because guess what? It’s YOUR wedding! Obviously, hiring a wedding stationery designer can alleviate the stress and guide you through the etiquette. So since I am a custom wedding stationery designer in Denver, below I’ve put together a list of do's and don'ts specifically on save the dates to help you out.
Keep an eye out… I’ll have more do's and don’ts on other stationery subjects coming later.
DO mail save the dates 6-12 months out
DON'T mail save the dates more than one year out
DO include the month, day, and year
DON'T include a time or date range (if you are throwing more than one event)
DO include your names (with last names or without ~ whatever you prefer!)
DON'T put nicknames or your parents names
DO include city and state of wedding location
DON'T include specific addresses
DO include your wedding website
DON'T include registry information
DO put your PROFESSIONAL engagement pictures on your card
DON'T put a selfie on your card
DO create a design that speaks to your wedding theme or vision
DON'T create a design that your best friend likes because "it's pretty"
DO include your wedding colors
DON'T include colors that your mom likes because "they're pretty"
DO have fun designing your save the date and make it YOUR own
DON'T create a design because someone else told you to. tell them to
go get their own wedding to plan!
Tip: If you have questions about wedding stationery etiquette contact a small local business and ask! I know I am always available to help anyone out, client or no client.
I thank my lucky stars that Katie and Damon selected me to design their wedding stationery and signage. What a pleasure! They got married last Spring in St. George, Utah on May 12 at The Entrada at Snow Canyon. With the love of Spain in their hearts, Katie and Damon used the bright orange rocks and green grass to create a colorful and inviting Spanish/Southwestern-themed event.
The Wedding Invitation Suite
The fushia, green and orange motif design on the invite was actually provided by Katie. She had used it on their save the date cards and knew right away she wanted it incorporated into her custom wedding invitation suite. We highlighted the texture of the decorative Spanish-looking font and tile-design pattern by printing the invitation and rsvp cards in letterpress on a soft ivory-toned cotton stock. The selection of shimmery bright envelopes pulled everything together to express a refined Spring wedding mood.
This fabulous bride and groom wanted the whole look and feel of their wedding to be consistent throughout, so they came back to me to create their day-of wedding stationery. To make certain all elements would come together with the day-of decor they had chosen, we implemented the same colors, fonts and design motif as used on the invitation cards.
The Wedding Escort Cards
Katie purchased Spanish tiles for the escort card table. Since the designs on the tiles were so eye-catching, we created simple belly bands to wrap around them with each guest’s name and table.
The Wedding Menus
There would be a 3-course dinner served at the reception—food was a standout piece of the event for the couple—so they decided to place 2 menu cards on each guest table. Even though Katie and Damon knew what the meal was composed of, exhibiting a full menu with all of the details for their friends and family to read was a very considerate touch!
The Just Married Sign
Instead of a getaway car, this bride and groom used a getaway cart! Katie requested a “just married” sign to hook on the back of the golf cart for their party exit. I recommended a fabric sign. Fabric is more flexible than paper and there is not a major price difference. Plus, it won’t get ruined in the rain. This signage was the perfect custom touch to end a spectacular day!
Katie and Damon’s Photographer: